The task of bringing up children is a pleasurable yet responsible, an exciting yet exacting job. One does not receive any formal training for this work. It is mainly an outcome of the high standards of upbringing that one inherits from his parents and ancestors. People think that to bring up a child lovingly means to shower not only affection and love but giving him everything he wants. But this is not so. Children should be made to realize that what they ask for, and get, is well deserved and ample hard work has been done by the parent to procure the same. They should be trained to do hard work for being achievers. In his letter to his sons teacher, Abraham Lincoln has said Teach him that a dollar earned is of far more value than five found. Treat him gently but do not cuddle him because only the test of fire makes fine steel. The children should be taught to fulfill their responsibilities towards their parent, towards their families, towards their school and all members of the society, and try to uphold the noble traditions of their family by imbibing the sublime values taught to them.
Parents also should not try to achieve their unfulfilled desires through their children .they should not try to influence or impose their own decision on their children for this will be catastrophic for both of them.
As pointed out by Charles Dickens in his novel The Tale of two cities, Today we are living in the best of times and we are living in the worst of times.After the lapse of several decades, we find this saying most appropriate even at the present time.
Today there is an explosion of knowledge, technology and information. The rapid stride made in the field of communication and transportation has opened up new avenues of employment and empowerment. The per capita income has gone up. Both the standard of living and cost of living have escalated.
Consequently in our fast changing age knowledge is taken as a commodity ready to be sold. Even great teachers do not command the respect and veneration that they should. Old values are just changing and they are viewed as mere relics of an ancient age which are irrelevant in the modern era. We lead a mechanized life which only focuses on the temporary and immediate and not on permanent and remote.
As Bertrand Russell has pointed out human beings are not like billiard balls which impinge each other and fly to the holes without interacting
Coupled with this emphasis on materialism, is the slow and steady degeneration of moral and ethical values. Cultivation of such noble values was ably and primarily assisted by the elder members of the family when the Joint family system was in vogue. With the slow and steady disappearance of the Joint family and the gradual emergence of the nuclear family there has been a degradation of the value education of our children. This is a significant cause for grave concern. We should do the needful before the malaise becomes deep rooted and the panacea is rendered ineffective.
For the total development of the personality of the child, I feel that both the school as a formal system of education and the family as an informal institution are equally responsible.
The child learns his first lesson in the lap of his parents, and a considerable part of the time during the infancy is spent at home, when indelible impressions are formed. As a toddler when he takes his faltering step and goes to the preparatory school the teachers substitute the role of parents.
Thus instead of the parents and teachers pointing an accusing finger at each other for the improper development of the childs personality, they should realize that the total development of a childs personality is a joint venture, and so they should try to be role models whom the children find emulatory. For children are the best imitators and are greatly influenced by the behaviour of the adults. Hence it is of utmost importance that both the home and school should work in unison and provide a conducive and congenial atmosphere for the children to bloom and blossom.
Towards this end, as responsible adults both the parents and teachers should regulate their personal life. Those who desire to cultivate personal life should set their heart to righteousness, for, when there is righteousness there are no fears. In order to ensure success in their mission to set a proper code of conduct it is essential that the elders should adopt blameless conduct to attract obedience from youngsters. When various members of the society reform and regulate themselves, there will be order in the National life. When there is order in the National life there will be peace and harmony in the World.
Towards this end it is the incessant efforts of our school to work untiringly for making the future generation to reach the goal of universal brotherhood and happiness. Vasudeva Kutumbakam Sarva Jannaaha Sukhina Bhavathu.